Robin and I are big fans of the television show The Biggest Loser. If you’re not familiar with it, it’s a weight-loss reality show where a number of severely overweight people are taken to a “ranch” and put through an intensive training program with two top physical trainers (Bob Harper and Jillian Michaels). They compete in weekly weigh-ins and the people or team that lose the least are put at risk of elimination.
This makes it sound like a typical sleazy reality TV show, but The Biggest Loser generally tries to stay positive, with even the contestants who are eliminated first gaining a new outlook on life and, with the help of the show, losing a large amount of weight. It’s a very positive-sum game.
Of course, though, the risk of elimination leads to “gameplay”: exploiting the parameters of the show to optimize weight loss to when it’s most valuable. Although it’s never discussed on the show, the tactic of choice seems to be “water loading” — drinking large amounts of water to keep body weight high. Contestants do this when they have immunity from elimination for the week, so they can load up to display only a pound or two of weight loss, and then really show a huge loss the next week.
In the current season, the red team has done this two weeks in a row. This isn’t unusual in and of itself, but the interaction between the trainers and the red team (Melissa and Lance) is. Melissa is the one who’s been sandbagging, gaining a pound one week and losing one the next. When the trainers and the host questioned her about her gain the first week, she played dumb, claiming she didn’t know why she wasn’t losing. When she lost only one pound the second week, they really jumped on her, up to and including calling her a liar to her face.
Her reaction was interesting to me. Although her lies on the scale are completely transparent — you know she’s lying through her teeth — she gets enraged, tearful, and defensive when confronted with that fact, and that outrage is real. Real enough that it cowed Bob, who questioned his own knowledge of the biology of weight loss when faced with her strident denials. Jillian wasn’t fooled, but chose to just “move forward” rather than try to crack her stonewalling.
It just didn’t make sense to me why she would:
- Maintain such a pointless lie about something that is a legitimate gameplay tactic, to the self-destructive point of pissing off her fellow competitors and the trainers, while
- Exploding in rage when her integrity was challenged.
And you’ve got to wonder what all this is going to look like to her teenage and pre-teen kids. Great example, Mom!
She has to know this can’t continue; in fact, she miraculously lost 11 pounds this week, even though she again had immunity. Amazing! Two weeks with net zero weight loss, and now 11 pounds this week! It’s a miracle!
Well, as Jillian knew, it was because you can’t realistically drink 30 pounds of water. I’m sure she’s water-loaded as much as she can, but that’s as far as she can go, and the rest had to show on the scale.
What’s the explanation? Particularly for the rage? I’m guessing, in the style of The Last Psychiatrist, that it’s narcissism.
Melissa sees herself as a honest person. Sure, she’s in a reality TV show, so she’s playing the game. She’s lying with every word, deliberately provoking other team members, and basically acting like a huge witch, but that’s not really her. She wants herself to be perceived based on her own internal image of herself, not on her actual actions.
That’s why Jillian and Bob calling her on her lies is such a threat to her. “You’re calling me a liar! My ethics and integrity are everything to me!” Sure, they are. In reality, her appearance as an ethical person with integrity is everything to her. Actually behaving ethically and with integrity, not so much.
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